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If you're partnered, it's impossible to avoid that friction even in a completely non-sexual context. Even at your most "cleaned-up," at a certain point you have to deal with how to introduce (or not) your "roommate" to your colleagues and loved ones. This isn't true for a differently-gendered kinky couple, no matter how transgressive they are in other ways or how fundamental a part of their identity their sexuality is.<BR/><BR/>Which really doesn't address the question of "orientation" either way, I don't think, though. The etiology of desire in general is just so incredibly complicated, and it's damn hard to find a way to explore it, even a little, without getting bogged down in politicization. <BR/><BR/>As problematic as John Money is in many respects, I think his theory of "lovemaps" was really useful and interesting, and comes closest to my own muddled ideas of how sexuality develops.belledame222https://www.blogger.com/profile/13947289856453172848noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-1138438318141586042006-01-28T00:51:00.000-08:002006-01-28T00:51:00.000-08:00Actually, I was thinking on this just today. I man...Actually, I was thinking on this just today. I manage to pick the woman to talk to in Mommy and Me who's got no hint of Goth left (we're all cotton and spit-up and raggedy hair), and within a very short period of time we realize we're one or two degrees of seperation away from each other in our sub-group scenes.<BR/><BR/>On the internet, I've been wandering around (carpetblogging), and running into all of these visions of the world that are UTTERLY FOREIGN. Shared age group, class, and professed philosophies aside. I get a little alarmed, but it's good to get out of the bubble.<BR/><BR/>The sub-groupings seem to confer things that aren't just stylistic or sexual or musical: it wasn't just about music and clothes. I realize now that there was a lot of shared philosophical ground that extended well past the mere drinking/dancing/smoking of Djarums and looking cool in our eyeliner. <BR/><BR/>Online, I spend a lot of time thinking: "No. Not really. Really? You think that way? Oh my god. Okay."<BR/><BR/>Sometimes, it's cool - different, interesting - but sometimes it's judgemental. Sometimes, it's as if others are seeing black as white; I know I must sound the same to them. <BR/><BR/>It's interesting: I'm not BDSM, (well, slap and tickle: I'm damn near British), and I'm personally allergic to porn - yet I spend scads of time defending/explaining various lifestyle choices to people on feminist blogs. (I do think that porn needs to be bought very carefully, since there is a lot of exploitation. I suppose there should be fair trade like stickers...) So even though I'm probably ridiculously sexually vanilla, I'm closer philosophically to you & Thomas.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-1138295306264444562006-01-26T09:08:00.000-08:002006-01-26T09:08:00.000-08:00About the "separate orientation" thing, I think it...About the "separate orientation" thing, I think it has some explanatory power but is ultimately wrong. True, Califia (pre-transition) did say she'd rather be "on a desert island with a leatherman than a vanilla dyke." So, certainly, when BDSM is a core component of one's sexuality, it can't just be shelved without painful and destructive self-denial. However, for most of us it goes to how we are intimate with our partners. While it may be an important part of our lives, it is one that is much easier to contain than who are partners are. The burden of being a closeted sadomasochist is pretty manageable. The burden of being a closeted gay man or lesbian is much, much greater.<BR/><BR/>About kink-dar, sure I've picked up a cue sometimes, but on the whole I've found that, while gaydar is real, it is not very reliable, and the same is true for us. <BR/><BR/>ThomasAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com