tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post7531842224182335074..comments2023-10-31T03:25:33.696-07:00Comments on Cassandra Says: Cassandra Sayshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07775317504418213521noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-55095557178114185802007-06-18T16:08:00.000-07:002007-06-18T16:08:00.000-07:00I think it depends on who's talking to you. I get ...I think it depends on who's talking to you. I get called ma'am by the under 30 set, and flirted with by the 35-50 set, and called sweetheart by the older than 50 crowd. And here in Georgia, everyone gets carded, so it's no big thang.Rootietoothttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06804816032287310463noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-64009491842788440792007-06-17T20:03:00.000-07:002007-06-17T20:03:00.000-07:00You know, the "doll" thing means nothing more or l...You know, the "doll" thing means nothing more or less than someone crudely communicating that they think you're still hawtt by societally approved standards. While it's irritating, the underlying message is a positive one. From the "older than you" crowd (I think by 5 years in my case), I can't stand sexist stupid thug comments, but when they stop happening, I won't like the message that sends either, I must admit.Octogalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052288318330285365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-57864274103031913262007-06-17T20:02:00.000-07:002007-06-17T20:02:00.000-07:00This comment has been removed by the author.Octogalorehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14052288318330285365noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-11710620256746448732007-06-14T10:43:00.000-07:002007-06-14T10:43:00.000-07:00I get everything from 19 to 40. I guess I am agel...I get everything from 19 to 40. I guess I am ageless.<BR/><BR/>(Psst. You have been <A HREF="http://www.ninepearls.com/article/347/pieces-of-eight" REL="nofollow">tagged</A>.)Veronicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17219976185183048440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-60866631911281980332007-06-13T21:01:00.000-07:002007-06-13T21:01:00.000-07:00My reaction was more "who says that any more?" tha...My reaction was more "who says that any more?" than anything else, honestly. I have one friend who calls me "baby-doll", but he's a Southern boy (and a lot bigger than me). Doll by itself from a stranger was just baffling. The guy was 40-ish and sort of rocker looking...long hair, black jeans, tour shirt.<BR/>A wierd experience all around.Cassandra Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07775317504418213521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-57995736312373222742007-06-13T19:06:00.000-07:002007-06-13T19:06:00.000-07:00Well I'm guy who just turned 50 (holy fucking shit...Well I'm guy who just turned 50 (holy fucking shit on a stick with festering sprinkles) and I use doll, baby and darling quite a bit. I also call them Professor, Dr., mommy and the occasional mam (nothing torques a 30'ish women more than mam). I find that the older the dame the more my language is clearly understood as a term of endearment and not any kind of snub (I am more formal with strangers). If you are secure, held in esteem and feel respected language gets to be a lot more fun. <BR/><BR/>Doll is interesting, I have used it assuming that it has not been in wide use since the '50s I find it fascinating that you got it on the street.<BR/><BR/>Relative to carding I used to get carded with some regularity through my mid 40's. I do have a baby face, have still not been able to grow any nonembarrassing facial hair in my life. But likely these days it is more about keeping the liquor license than anything else. there is a bar down the street that still cards me gray hair an all.<BR/><BR/>Extremely late kudos for the sisterhood post (I may have already commented but you know the mind starts going at this age) in the end we are all people in the same boat.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-503089110899534032007-06-13T14:54:00.000-07:002007-06-13T14:54:00.000-07:00BrevisMus - Thanks for the link, I'll check it out...BrevisMus - Thanks for the link, I'll check it out.<BR/><BR/>I'm really starting to think it's a combination of age and clothes. I'm around girls in their teens and early twenties a lot and most of them seem to have no idea how old I am. I think that people just look at superficial cues like how a person dresses + interests and make assumptions accordingly.<BR/><BR/>It must be really annoying to be carded when you're not even drinking. Why are they IDing you for orange juice? I'm from the UK too and when I was still there nobody IDd unless someone was buying booze, or if they did it was at the door of a club/pub rather than at the actual bar.Cassandra Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07775317504418213521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-34385532608554657492007-06-13T14:49:00.000-07:002007-06-13T14:49:00.000-07:00Last month I got carded and the 21 year old woman ...Last month I got carded and the 21 year old woman I was sitting with didn't. That was kind of funny in a "don't laugh, she might get offended" way.<BR/><BR/>You may be right, Ren - I think size is a big part of it, along with how a person dresses. <BR/><BR/>What I find REALLY wierd is when it's other women who can't judge age. A few months ago I was at a concert and this group of teenage girls kept referring to me as "that girl" (loudly and obnoxiously I might add...apparently the fact that they could see cleavage offended them). Being referred to as a "girl" by girls who could literally be my kids age-wise is a little odd.Cassandra Sayshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07775317504418213521noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-90743804144456029692007-06-13T05:22:00.000-07:002007-06-13T05:22:00.000-07:00Have you seen http://www.stumptuous.com/cms/index....Have you seen http://www.stumptuous.com/cms/index.php - it's a good resource for women interested in weight training (including information on why you are unlikely to turn into Arnold Schwarzenegger).<BR/><BR/>I'm 26, with many creases on my face, but I'm also 5'1", and frequently get IDed in pubs. What's more frustrating is that I don't drink, so being IDed for an orange juice - when I have no ID since I'm way over age (the age limit in the UK is 18) and not actually drinking - is very frustrating. I think people see a combination of short + alternative + tee-totaller and assume teenager.BrevisMushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00048303112739992569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-14234730.post-13214814088893875782007-06-13T04:28:00.000-07:002007-06-13T04:28:00.000-07:00I'm 35. I still get carded for booze on occasion....I'm 35. I still get carded for booze on occasion. Women are much better at guessing other women's age than men are. We tend to know what to look for. Most female people are much closer on guessing my age, men tend to guess anywhere from 12-5 years off. Also, I think women who are smaller generally DO get mistaken for younger often.Renegade Evolutionhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17905949172886730262noreply@blogger.com